CliftonStrengths®: Relator® – Going deep

by | Nov 25, 2018 | Strengths

CliftonStrengths® defines Relator® as “enjoy close relationships with others. They find deep satisfaction in working hard with friends to achieve a goal.”

You thrive when you “connect deeply with the right people to gain friends for life. “

You care

I love to dive deep into conversations in areas of interest. I’ve never been drawn to “shallow” people as I desire to connect more deeply. I will make an attempt to connect with most people I meet to see if I can open you up and if not, I will move on.

I build businesses with a focus on the impact on people. I have Relationship as my #1 BP10™ talent (Builders Profile), and Relator® is my #8 theme, so this focus is what I bring all across the board.

I’ve always been curious and fascinated by what makes people tick. My exploration resulted in asking many questions. Some people loved that, others did not. Most people trust me quickly, which is where this talent theme shines and influences others.

A small circle of close friends

Many “Relators” have a few friends with whom they are super close and may be guarded in letting new people in. Some of us have many close friends (that would be Woo® influencing) or open up to strangers quickly that we then never see again.

When I look at all the places I’ve lived in over the years, I definitely have many close friends, yet it’s a couple at a time, and some are more active than others.

I think some of that had to do with the BS meter that many of us have. It’s a “trust” theme, and once you trust people, you’re there for the ride, make time for your friends, and have their back.

On the flip side, if you play us, you’re out and won’t necessarily be allowed in again. Next!

People who are shallow or don’t let you in may evoke the same reaction.

You build long-term

I have friends from early childhood, like my childhood BFF, whom I met when I was 2 years old. We haven’t spoken or seen each other for many years; we’ll comment on each other’s Facebook walls now and then, AND if I saw her today, I bet we’d connect instantly and continue without missing a beat.

The same goes for all of my close friends. That, to me, is the gold in this theme.

The ones that are in your lives have a friend that has their back.

My Adaptability® theme influences this theme quite a bit. Many years ago, I took on the belief and life philosophy of “People come into your life for a reason, season, or lifetime,” long before I knew of this quote.

It has supported my Relator® theme and offered freedom and allowance as you never know who ends up being your “lifetime” friends. There have been many “surprise” turns along the way, which is fine with me.

Being real

It’s super important for you to be real and authentic. Fake people rub most of you the wrong way as you really want people to be themselves. I don’t really have a judgment of what you choose to do in life unless you intentionally hurt people or animals.

 

Do you have Relator® as one of your dominant talents? Do you go deep too? How does this theme play out in your life? Please comment below; I’d love to know.

Are you curious about what your talents might be? CLICK HERE for more information about the CliftonStrengths® Assessment or HERE for the BP10™ Assessment.

Lastly, visit Gallup’s YouTube channel for more information on the CliftonStrengths® theme of Relator® HERE.