Dominant space

by | May 15, 2015 | Access

What is the dominant energy in the space around you? The people you hang with? Work with? Neighbors/ neighborhood? Is it an energy that contributes to you and the life you wish to create?

What comes to mind for you if I say, “this person has a dominant energy?” – do you think of someone amazing or a bully? Will that person include or invite you to play, or is it all about them? And how do either of those energies affect you? Can you be you, or do you cave in and let someone dominate you? Could there be another possibility? Are you the dominant space?

In a world where many people choose to dominate by being mean, ego-tripping, needing the stage for themselves, and simply insecure, why is it that we so often allow that behavior and even cater to it? Does the customer who complains get better service and/or more attention than the awesome ones? Where are you in the equation? Who do you choose to interact with?

One of the things I love about living in the US is its diversity, especially in larger cities like Los Angeles and New York. When you live in a city which literally has people from all over the world residing in it, you learn a lot. I made a choice many years ago to leave the country I was born and raised in.

I was looking for something different that I couldn’t find where I was at the time. Having moved a lot in Sweden and then leaping to move to a different country was easy, exciting, and fun for me. To be in a country with so many people, variety, and choices gave me the freedom to be me, explore and create something new for me.

My journey to citizenship was a long one that humbled me, and had many eye-opening experiences. The gratitude I have and the privilege I feel for living here has a lot to do with the determination it took to live here legally as a citizen.

The blended energies of this country also confused me at times as people’s choices and perspectives, cultures, and more were very different than mine. This was long before I knew a simple question like “Who does this belong to?®” could shift things in a moment or “What question can I ask to change this?” or “What information is missing that could change this?”.

When you live in a neighborhood where the majority are of certain beliefs or cultures, it’s really interesting to observe, tap into and also talk to people to see what makes them tick, especially when it’s completely different from your own way of living life. Having had the tools to let go of events in my past through different teachings over the years, I still often felt “different,” and again, how much of that was even mine? And when the contrast is palpable, it also becomes a tool to distinguish what actually is yours vs. others.

While carrying the past with you is not unique to any particular group of people, it provides a greater perspective when you can tap into a group that all appear to choose the same. Whether it’s holding on to old customs, dressing to fit in, or following a religion, you are from a different viewpoint than the group. Many of us have experienced some type of group energy where we wanted to fit in, belong, and then for some of us, it just wasn’t true, so we changed our minds.

It’s not about right or wrong from my perspective; I’m curious and like to ask questions. I have, however, gone from a Q&A conclusion reality to now more actively looking for the awareness matching the energy of what I am asking for, what’s true for me, and yes, I still come to conclusions too. So much of what I am asking for nowadays, I do not even have the words for. And I now include myself differently.

How often do you give in to the group energy out of courtesy to the people you’re with? That, to me, is where it gets interesting. How often does openness go both ways? What would be possible if people totally chose what was working for them? Even if that meant to leave or speak up or both?

An empowered choice is a generative and expansive energy to me. What does it bring up for you? And what would it be like if the people around you could hear what you had to say with absolutely no point of view?

And then there are work situations, an unhappy customer or co-worker. Isn’t it interesting how one person can dominate a space so much that we allow it even when it’s not working? What I find even more interesting is that many allow behaviors that are not inspiring yet resist and shoot down the people that bring joy, happiness, and other possibilities.

To me, that is downright strange. And having been a person who has been happy despite people’s moods around me for most of my life, often being judged and not received, I’ve reflected on it a lot. And wondered where the happy people were. It’s so much easier to gossip, complain, and get hooked into drama, or could there be other possibilities available? Even when you feel like crap and people are down on you?

Yesterday after listening to an awesome hangout with Blossom I got some awesome reminders – do not listen to it :). I realized [again] that being happy and inspiring is a gift, including others in the invitation, is fun even if they say no, being interested rather than interesting, which is what the energy of being inclusive is to me, and that is what will create a change on this planet that I am willing to play with.  The kind of change where people are happy and contributing to this planet in another way.

Have you ever considered the impact anger vs. joy creates on our planet? The more I tune into all different kinds of energy, the more I acknowledge how aware I am, and the more I stop even for a moment to contribute yummy energy to the plants, birds, squirrels, etc. I wonder how many of us do?

I have this beautiful hummingbird that comes to say hello now and then, and that to me is super magical, having grown up where I did 🙂 And today, someone in my community shared how she was bringing in the energy of a money amount that had her buzzing into her body while running. That resonated so much with me, it got my body buzzing as I tapped into the amount for me, and I wonder what that energy can contribute to the trees and wildlife when I go out for my walk in a bit. And if I stay focused on energizing my body with a willingness to receive this amount or greater, I wonder what else that will create for my life and living and how it will affect the people around me.

What yummy energies can you focus on today? What choices can you make that expand your life? What choices have you made that you would choose again? What choices have you made that you are ready to release? Could it be as simple as just making a different choice?

“What if a belief is just a thought you have thought many times?” – Abraham-Hicks

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